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Post by Marya Dabrowski on Jan 1, 2018 19:00:37 GMT -5
1. To work on de-cluttering/dusting/organizing/decorating one room per week on a rotating schedule.
2. To train the baby and toddler to sleep through the night.
3. To can more foods.
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Post by Voxxkowalski on Jan 2, 2018 0:09:32 GMT -5
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Post by jen51 on Jan 2, 2018 9:22:01 GMT -5
To be more positive and less critical.
As far as hopes and goals- we are hoping to get this house sold and get moved to a place out of town where my husbands new job is.
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Post by Voxxkowalski on Jan 2, 2018 9:36:05 GMT -5
To be more positive and less critical. As far as hopes and goals- we are hoping to get this house sold and get moved to a place out of town where my husbands new job is. Generally where is your house? Is it a nice area?
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Post by jen51 on Jan 3, 2018 11:44:55 GMT -5
To be more positive and less critical. As far as hopes and goals- we are hoping to get this house sold and get moved to a place out of town where my husbands new job is. Generally where is your house? Is it a nice area? Southeast Kansas. I suppose it would depend on what you consider nice. I like the area. It's a small town, not much crime, beautiful landscape, etc. The drawback is if you're not a farmer, gainful employment is kind of scarce and usually requires a commute.
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Post by Marya Dabrowski on Jan 3, 2018 19:15:34 GMT -5
My brother and his friend started a challenge on the 1st who can go the longest without soda or energy drinks. I think it can go for a long time... we'll see:)
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Post by Marya Dabrowski on Jan 3, 2018 19:17:07 GMT -5
To be more positive and less critical. As far as hopes and goals- we are hoping to get this house sold and get moved to a place out of town where my husbands new job is. I hate to say it, one of the things that has helped me not judge people is to stop caring. Definitely not the correct attitude.
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Post by RitaMarita on Jan 4, 2018 8:42:59 GMT -5
My New Year's resolution is to try and adapt myself for the married life:
1. To familiarize myself with my fiance's wishes and tastes to the degree that we will never have to have a major argument after we are married.
2. To communicate even when we are upset or offended with each other about something.
3. To never raise my voice when talking with him.
(Of course I do understand that every couple has quarrels. We have already had a few. But, I am grateful that we have been able to talk them out calmly so far. I pray that this will continue into our married life.)
And a couple other small resolutions:
1. To look up movies on IMDB before watching them.
2. To make time at least a few minutes every day to read the Bible, the Lives of the Saints, or another good spiritual book.
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Post by Voxxkowalski on Jan 4, 2018 10:37:20 GMT -5
Do not fear arguments...fear resentment. And after writing that sentence...remember that most arguments in marriages are cause by fear.
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Post by Clotilde on Jan 4, 2018 13:28:45 GMT -5
My New Year's resolution is to try and adapt myself for the married life: 1. To familiarize myself with my fiance's wishes and tastes to the degree that we will never have to have a major argument after we are married. 2. To communicate even when we are upset or offended with each other about something. 3. To never raise my voice when talking with him. (Of course I do understand that every couple has quarrels. We have already had a few. But, I am grateful that we have been able to talk them out calmly so far. I pray that this will continue into our married life.) And a couple other small resolutions: 1. To look up movies on IMDB before watching them. 2. To make time at least a few minutes every day to read the Bible, the Lives of the Saints, or another good spiritual book. Most couples quarrel before marriage, you are correct, they are trying to learn to compromise and deal with shortcomings in a way that is completely new. I know most people won't admit to it, but it is true. I think it is just frustrating because you are both learning and trying to figure out how you will fit together and throwing in wedding stress or family issues does not help one bit!
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Post by jen51 on Jan 4, 2018 19:52:44 GMT -5
To be more positive and less critical. As far as hopes and goals- we are hoping to get this house sold and get moved to a place out of town where my husbands new job is. I hate to say it, one of the things that has helped me not judge people is to stop caring. Definitely not the correct attitude. I tend to be the most critical of those who are very critical of me (parents, mil, etc). I feel like I need a psychologist to get all my family issues figured out, lol.
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Post by jen51 on Jan 4, 2018 20:01:10 GMT -5
My New Year's resolution is to try and adapt myself for the married life: 1. To familiarize myself with my fiance's wishes and tastes to the degree that we will never have to have a major argument after we are married. 2. To communicate even when we are upset or offended with each other about something. 3. To never raise my voice when talking with him. (Of course I do understand that every couple has quarrels. We have already had a few. But, I am grateful that we have been able to talk them out calmly so far. I pray that this will continue into our married life.) And a couple other small resolutions: 1. To look up movies on IMDB before watching them. 2. To make time at least a few minutes every day to read the Bible, the Lives of the Saints, or another good spiritual book. Most couples quarrel before marriage, you are correct, they are trying to learn to compromise and deal with shortcomings in a way that is completely new. I know most people won't admit to it, but it is true. I think it is just frustrating because you are both learning and trying to figure out how you will fit together and throwing in wedding stress or family issues does not help one bit! This was true for me. We had way more arguments before we got married. So far we've had one serious fight and it was over in-laws. It's also true what Voxx said- stress is a big factor. Most of our disagreements happen when my husband is stressed over finances or I/we are stressed about family difficulties. We've both learned what each other's triggers are, and make extra efforts to be patient and kind to one another when one or the other is stressed.
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Post by Marya Dabrowski on Jan 4, 2018 20:13:45 GMT -5
I hate to say it, one of the things that has helped me not judge people is to stop caring. Definitely not the correct attitude. I tend to be the most critical of those who are very critical of me (parents, mil, etc). I feel like I need a psychologist to get all my family issues figured out, lol. It's the same for me. And I really think we all could use some good therapy!
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Post by Marya Dabrowski on Jan 4, 2018 20:16:54 GMT -5
My New Year's resolution is to try and adapt myself for the married life: 1. To familiarize myself with my fiance's wishes and tastes to the degree that we will never have to have a major argument after we are married. 2. To communicate even when we are upset or offended with each other about something. 3. To never raise my voice when talking with him. (Of course I do understand that every couple has quarrels. We have already had a few. But, I am grateful that we have been able to talk them out calmly so far. I pray that this will continue into our married life.) And a couple other small resolutions: 1. To look up movies on IMDB before watching them. 2. To make time at least a few minutes every day to read the Bible, the Lives of the Saints, or another good spiritual book. I don't know if people think about this, but it's actually work learning to share a bed with someone. It took me a long time to figure out my husband actually twitches and moves around just after he's fallen asleep. And I can't fall asleep till he's asleep. All the time I'd been thinking he was restless because something was bothering him so I would start talking to him and wake him up again. It was torture for both of us.
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Post by RitaMarita on Jan 5, 2018 13:27:12 GMT -5
Sounds from what you all say that I picked the right New Year's resolution!
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