Post by RitaMarita on Mar 11, 2017 8:40:33 GMT -5
i think grief can manifest itself in different ways. sometimes it means letting go of a person who meant the world to you. I remember when we lost our daughter, it was like, the world collapsed. this tiny person, who we only had with us for 24 hours, became part of our world, and somehow after that short period of time, it was difficult to imagine a world without her in it.
other times, it can mean letting go of your dreams. a couple with infertility will often grieve the loss of the hopes of having children, and all of the dreams that come with that. you must learn to live in a world where your dreams never become reality. An athelete who has an injury must grieve the loss of the sport he loves.
for me, it has meant grieving the loss of abilities. with a progressive disease, it takes and takes gradually, so at first, I lost my career,and any ambitions that came with that. also lost the ability to walk. So I consoled myself by saying, "Well at least I can play the piano." Then,I stopped being able to play piano, so I consoled myself by saying,"Well I can still sing." And then I couldnt sing anymore. and so it goes. I havestopped saying "well at least i can" because you never know when the rug will get pulled out from undr you. as soonas you think you've dealt with it and accepted it, more stuff happens
somehow, God still has a plan
for how youre going to live without it but you can't see what that plan looks like and you have no idea how you will adjust
the thing about comparing our grief to Our Lady's grief is that (unless I'm wrong) our lady had perfect knowledge. She knew that Our Lord would rise again. She knew that his suffering would be over. It still pained her to see it happen while it was happening. But I wonder, was she able to think about the resurrection while sitting at the foot of the cross?
I think what makes our earthly suffering so difficult to go through is the fact that we don't have perfect knowledge. we can't see our own resurrection, we can only see Calvary. i have a hard time seeing any end in sight, or imagining any heavenly reward,or having any hope in heaven at all...infact sometimes i worry that the odds are stacked against me spiritually and i was predestined all along to go to hell. sometimes when my wife is trying to motivate my son to do something he doesnt want to do, she'll say "think about how this is one more precious stone in the crown God is making for you in Heaven." and the saints often thught this way, desiring suffering because they could only see the heavnly reward
it is said that god allows suffering in orer to drw greater good out of it. when you aregoing through something like a significant grief...it is very difficult to imagine what good could possibly come of something that has shaken up your world in such a fundamental way. in the throes of grief, the suffering seems more "real"than whatever good may come from it because that "good" is a great unknown, a question mark. who even knows.
It is wise to find the will of God in all of our sorrow.
He wants what is best for us, and even if we don't understand why something is happening to us; we ought to trust everything into His most capable and loving Hands.